In motherhood I have found a great sense of purpose. Starting a family was something I always envisioned. I felt confident in my maternal instincts, even as a little girl. Babies were my thing. During my pregnancies, I prepared my body - both physically and mentally, as I desired an unmedicated home birth. I educated myself on various topics related to pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. As a nurse, I attended births and supported moms through their transition into motherhood. I provided lactation support, supported both the mental and physical healing process, validated feelings related to birth, recovery, breastfeeding, and listened to their worries and concerns. Because of my experience, I thought postpartum would flow more easily.

Although my birth and postpartum experience with my first born was an empowering experience, I was still faced with challenges many mother struggle with. Challenges with breastfeeding caused anxiety about feedings. Latch issues, newborn oral restrictions, pain at every feeding, and worries whether my baby was getting enough weighed heavy on my mind. It left me questioning my own intuition and doubting my body’s natural ability to nourish and care for my baby. How could something so natural be so complex?

I knew I needed to get out of myself and lean on those around me. Seeking support, asking for help from an IBCLC, and allowing my family to be there for me so I could heal, made those early weeks easier. The care and support that my family provided for my husband and I made all the difference. They showed up for us in ways I didn’t know I needed. They tended to our home and nourished us so we could bond with our sweet newborn. I learned quickly that all of my preparation was only a component of having a positive postpartum experience. My village helped shape me as a mother. I aspire to expand my village and form these connections with mothers within my community so they too can feel supported, valued, and empowered.